Blogging in B Minor

After spending a lot of time looking at all of the various aspects of leaving my career, whether temporarily or permanently, we have made a decision that it’s time to walk away — at least for now.  At this point, the notion of returning doesn’t seem like an option.

When I look at what’s really important in life it boils down to several things, the core of which are God and my family, it’s a pretty simple decision. It was long ago that I had spreadsheets put together that estimated the impact of not working. We pored over information and did the due diligence required to understand how this would affect us back in 2007 (of course you all know by now how freaking organized I am!). Now that I’m using dictation software it is a lot easier to post to my blog but my deficits have increased. The essence of my decision is balancing my condition against how long I work. 

Basically, there is no way I’m going to grind this out and have no energy left to spend quality time with my family.  There are trips to take, memories to cherish and a lot more to do. I know that God is not done with me yet but no one sits at the end of their life and wishes that they would’ve worked more (as a good friend of mine put it).  It’s a hard concept to absorb if you aren’t in my position.  I never thought this way before I was faced with this but I do now.  It takes me an additional 30 to 45 minutes in the morning to get ready, driving to work with a bad left arm is concerning and not fun and generally it all makes sense.  I’m just at a jumping off point.

Don’t get me wrong. It is bittersweet. I have been very blessed in that I love what I do and gain a lot of satisfaction through my job. I wake up every morning looking forward to going to work and thrive in that environment but as much as I love it I have to walk away. Some of the guys that have relocated to work for me I have worked with for 20 years. No, it’s not that I won’t see them anymore but I just won’t be working with them on a professional level and that is what is bittersweet. Everyone that I work with.  My friends and I will still be having plenty of football parties and other get-togethers though!  Driving an organization, creating strategies, managing large projects, the politics of it all (yes, even the politics!) – I’ll miss it but I’m 110% sure that this is the right decision. I’m actually looking forward to this. I can now focus on my health and most importantly my family and treatment. At the core of all this is of course our relationship with God.

If there is one thing I’ve learned through all of this it’s that we all have trials in life. Call them problems if you’d like. If you aren’t in the middle of a problem now you are than other one to solve soon or you just came out of the problem.  They build endurance and character.   No one knows why trials of this magnitude occur. Why do young children have cancer? I don’t think any of us can answer those questions but what I do know is that the next life in eternity is a great place. There is no sorrow or grief. No worries but getting to a perfect place requires living in an imperfect place that is essentially a long lesson in humlity. I don’t know about you, but humility is something that is a lifelong piece of work!

So January 31 it is! We are now brainstorming on things we want to do sooner as opposed to later. We’d like to take some trips with the kids but certainly some without.

In terms of treatment I started  VP-16. I’m using this in conjunction with all of the other treatments that I’ve mentioned including the experimental vaccine that I started last April. Because the last MRIs showed increased enhancement we have collapsed the window of time between each MRI to 30 days from 60 days. I’ll be due for another MRI at the beginning of February and will see where we sit. I want to stay with anyone drugs for too long.  Additionally, I want to start pulling the vaccine off the shelf and use it.  The hope is that we can stabilize the growth that has taken place which at this point is small but I’ve become symptomatic, the most conspicuous of which is in my left arm.

Lastly, one request from all the readers. Because I’m having to dictate now due to my inability to type fast it’s increasingly difficult to respond to e-mails that come in rather than comments that are posted to the blog and attached to each post. Therefore, please know that I appreciate every e-mail that comes in and will certainly try to respond but well wishes, prayers and additional information that all of you wonderful people have been supporting me with are much easier to manage if they can be posted to the blog and the comments area. I hope this doesn’t sound selfish because I am so blessed to have so many who care and support me it’s just that I don’t like to receive such supportive e-mails and not respond. If they are posted in comments that are attached to a post in the blog I can respond to all of them at once in the form of a comment attached to the end.

I will provide more information once I have some changes in treatment.

God bless,

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